Fun Ways to Ask Your Wedding Party to Be in Your Wedding

One of the most fun parts of planning the big day is asking your favorite people to be in your wedding party.  These are the people who are going to stick with you through the planning process, through thick and thin.  They’ve been by your side through the highs and lows of your life, now it’s time for them to stand by your side the day you say “I do.”

Bridesmaids with bags
Chris Van Winkle Photography

Then and Now Pictures

Are you asking a sibling or a childhood best friend to be in your wedding party?  Consider getting a nice, custom print of a photo of you and them from way-back-when.  With that, write a heartfelt message about how your journey through life has led up to this moment.  You can find affordable prints of all shapes and sizes to gift to your potential wedding party members here

Michael Murphy IV Photography

Personalized Drinkware

If you’re going for the insta-worthy option, look no further than some customizable mugs or wine tumblers.  These are something that each person can use leading up to the wedding and serving as a nice keepsake for years to come.  Don’t forget to let your wedding party members know to bring it for your wedding weekend so that your photographer can capture some cute photos of you clinking and drinking from your matching drinkware.

Bridesmaids cheers
Michael Murphy IV Photography


Jewelry can be a great way to ask bridesmaids to be in a wedding, especially if you want them each to wear matching jewelry sets with their dresses.  Gift them with them early on so that it’s not a last-minute decision by you or the bridesmaids.

Bridesmaids in matching robes
Jesslin Rae Photography


Flasks are a great option for both bridesmaids and groomsmen.  You can easily find customizable ones on Etsy.  These can also be fun when it comes to bachelor or bachelorette parties. 

Groomsmen Flasks
Rose Photo


Get a goodie from a local bakery and have it packaged nicely to be sent to each wedding party member.  It’s great for those who don’t want to worry about any trinkets that will get lost or unused.  Think of a cute sugar cookie with “Be My Bridesmaid?” inscribed across the top in royal icing.  Adorable!  Even some delicious chocolates or candies are sure to get those potential members of your wedding party to say “yes.”

Michael Murphy IV Photography


Box up a small succulent or cactus for each wedding party member to open.  What a unique and fun gift to open!  Maybe even throw in a cheeky note saying “My wedding would succ without you,” or “Don’t be a prick, be my bridesmaid/groomsman!”

Paxton Photography


Whether it’s a recommendation, the YA book the two of you obsessed over in middle school, an empty journal, or a cheesy romance novel, books can be a great wedding party proposal gift.  You can write a personal message within the first couple of pages, and your wedding party members are sure to think of you each time they flip through the pages or pass it on a bookshelf.

Book table number
Northern Art Photography

Gift Baskets 

One of the most common wedding party proposals is the classic gift box that encompasses all of these ideas.  Who doesn’t love a box of goodies?  This option also allows you to personalize each gift to the person.  Throw in four or five little gifts that remind you of that person and/or will come in handy leading up to the wedding.  Some bubbly and some at-home spa products are a must.  Otherwise, have fun with them.  Throw in some kitschy key chains or funny signs with snarky sayings.

Wedding gift basket
Megan Hannon Photography

However you choose to ask wedding party members to be in your wedding doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive, just make sure it’s personalized and fun.  Though some may be tempted to just send a text, there are plenty of simple and sweet ways to ask those you love to be part of your special day.

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