Making Your Wedding as Inclusive as Possible

“It’s 2020.”  A phrase you probably hear weekly.  But, is it a phrase you come across when planning your wedding?  It should be!  We’ve reached a point in history where inclusivity should be the norm.  However, there are still the occasional hoops to jump through when it comes to making your event as inclusive as possible.  Whether you’re a client or a professional, it’s important to make certain expectations a habit, rather than a hassle.

Person-First Language

When speaking to a guest or client who has a disability or impairment of any kind, it’s important not to make that disability their identity.  For example, instead of addressing someone as a blind guest, refer to them as a guest who is blind.  Using what is called “Person-First Language” identifies a need, without making it something that comes across as a weakness.

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Saying “Wedding Party” versus “Bridal Party”

The term “bridal” insinuates a party of all women.  That’s not always the case!  Whether you’re working with a Man of Honor or no bride at all, it’s better to just stick with the term “wedding party”.  When it comes down to it, the wedding is the core reason for being there, no matter who it’s between.  The same goes for the term “bridal suite”.  Instead, Castle Farms refers to those included rooms, meant for the wedding party to get ready in, as “dressing rooms” or simply just, “suite”.

Photo: Michael Murphy IV Photography

Using Proper Pronouns on Documents and When Speaking

It’s always important to ask couples what their preferred pronouns are.  Today, we live in a world where he/him/his, she/her/hers, and they/their/theirs are all potential pronouns.  Normalizing pronouns is becoming more and more proficient in everyday life.  Sometimes, it’s okay to ask.  Those with certain gender identifications prefer it, rather than having to correct you later.  With that said, make sure any signs, documents, or information sheets fit the couple’s needs. 

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Restrooms, something everyone uses.  Three reception spaces at Castle Farms have at least one unisex bathroom, as well as ADA compliant restrooms.  Make sure your guests are using whichever restroom makes them the most comfortable.

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Non-Alcoholic Drinks

An open bar is often one of the highlights of a wedding reception.  For some, not so much.  Some of your guests may have views, beliefs, or even health conditions that prohibit them from drinking alcohol.  If you have guests that fall into this category, they may not want the kid’s menu options for their beverages that evening.  Other than offering just water, juice, soda, or coffee, try to think outside the box.  Shirley Temples are always a crowd-pleaser for guests who enjoy a specialty drink, without the alcohol.  Arnold Palmers are also a great option for a unique drink for alcohol-abstaining guests to sip on.  Northwood Soda is also a great local option that provides unique flavors, like rhubarb and lavender or blueberry acai, without any alcohol.

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More and more brides are opting for different individualized bridesmaid dress-styling.  There’s not always a “one style fits all” or even “one shade fits all” dress out there.  Depending on height and body shape of the ladies standing up next to you, you may want to consider going for a mismatched bridesmaid dress look.  Whether that means giving each bridesmaid a specific color range to choose the shade that best complements their skin tone or allowing attendants to choose their own neckline and supportive fit to flatter their figure, dresses can be customized in countless ways.  To keep a cohesive look, determine a few required details, such as all dresses should be floor length and ensure their bouquets are all the same size and style.  It’s important your bridesmaids feel comfortable on your wedding day so they can be free to enjoy the day and focus all their attention on making the day special for you, rather than spending the day fretting on how they look in their dress.

Photo: E.C. Campbell Photography

ADA Compliance

Each ceremony and reception space at Castle Farms follows ADA guidelines, by having ramps or elevators nearby.  If guests with physical disabilities need help getting from point A to point B while outdoors, couples can rent golf carts to be driven by one designated sober driver.

Photo: Spencer Penfield Photography

Your wedding day is all about celebrating, not only you, but all the important people in your life!  You’ll want everyone to be included and feel comfortable.  Ensuring both guest and clients’ comfort levels is something that we are more than happy to go the extra mile for.

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